I know a lot of my blog friends aren't parents and obviously haven't breastfed, but I would still like your opinion so read on...
OnFriday night, I'm sleepy and in that mood where I'm fighting going to sleep cause I'm certain that I can find something interesting on the internet to look at... I somehow wander on to the Yahoo newspage and Ca-Blowh there's this big article and attached video about Mayim Bailik (Blossom) and her "EXTREMELY CONTROVERSIAL PARENTING VIEWS". I read the article and was in shock.
Here are the things that were so freaking controversial: co-sleeping and demand breastfeeding. Controversial? Really?
I have nursed four children and it has been one of the greatest and most fulfilling achievements in my life. I'm not saying breastfeeding is going to make every child healthier than bottle fed children, but I always thought, 'I'm here at home with all the time in the world to give my kids, why wouldn't I breastfeed?' It was hard at first but I perservered.
Demand breastfeeding just means that you feed the baby whenever they want, not on any set schedule. I've heard that bottle fed babies get a certain amount of formula for a certain amount of time (correct me if I'm wrong) but breast milk doesn't last as long in the stomach as formula and the baby needs to be nursed more often. There are a lot of sad stories about parents not wanting to 'spoil' their newborn, putting them on a breastfeeding schedule and the baby ending up dead or malnutritioned. And a big part of these horrible tragedies is Gary Ezzo. The author of Babywise teaches parents to disciples young (YOUNG) infants and reccomends babies should only be fed every four hours AND not through the night.
I also co-slept with my baby a month after their birth and for a couple months after that. I think the baby is too young to be 'spoiled' and I also know that breastfed infants need nursed quite often, so I just nurse in bed all night long. More sleep for me, more cuddle time for both of us. Those nights and mornings were some of the best of my life, waking up holding my baby, looking into her/his eyes. dreamy and sleepy.
Does all that sound controversial to you?
I also want to add that if you don't breastfeed, I don't think that you're a bad parent. I would be curious about what led you to the decision, and if you needed help with nursing I would counsel you on it...but I would never judge any good parent for how they decided to care for their child. And I applaud anyone who as at least tried to nurse! The first few days of breastfeeding are very important to a baby's health and to the relationship between the mom and baby.
I hate the feeling that I'm a weirdo or that someone might think that my children aren't being cared for properly. I feel a little paranoid that Rose might be talking about how her mom nursed her and her siblings, or slept with them when they were babies and someone might tell her that I'm a crazy freak...or controversial. ha.
Oh well...what are your opinions on breastfeeding or co-sleeping? Katie Allison Granju wrote the above linked article about BabyWise and Gary Ezzo, here is another one of my favorite articles by her: The Family Bed.